You Never Face Your Loneliness

 Did You Face Your Loneliness?

You never face your loneliness

Does loneliness drive us in different directions? Most of us are lonely people. We may have children, grandmother, we may be surrounded by a crowd, we may go to the temple, to the church, we may read a great many books, write, philosophies, but when we wake up in the middle of the night or dark, we suddenly feel like completely lonely. We may be sleeping next to our wives, we may be walking with our friends and companions, we feel deeply, suddenly, this sense of not being related to anything, desperately lonely. Radio, television, books, images, imagine the days that you are not lonely, and fight it, try to escape from it, try to rationalize your loneliness, try to resist it, avoid it.

Don't we do all those things?

But we never face it, we never come directly into contact with it. Like sorrow, we never come immediately into its total contact. So we look at this loneliness as an observer, as an outsider, who says,

I don't know what it is, I am frightened, I don't like it. I will get drunk, I will take drugs, anything to avoid this terrible thing. So when we escape from it, the loneliness and the fear of it increases, it is always there. We may run away a thousand miles, it is always there. We may place, in that loneliness,

our gods, our saviors, our gurus, our idea of enlightenment – it is always there, like our shadow.

So knowing, seeing clearly, that any form of escape, however subtle or however stupid, however brutal,

doesn't answer this question of loneliness. So when we see the truth of that, then we are that loneliness.

Not we are different from that loneliness, we are that loneliness. Aren't we? We, married, wife, children, we are struggling, we are self-assertive, we all have our own problems, we are working for ourselves, in the name of our families, we are working for ourselves or we can say that we are isolating ourselves a whole day.

So this daily isolating process, through aggression, through assertion, through the dominance, me and not me, all that process, that movement of theme, is loneliness, isolation. And from that sense of isolation you want to assert, we become aggressive, brutal, violent, angry. So, all those are forms of an escape from the fact of what is. Now can we look at that loneliness without any conclusion, without wanting to go beyond it, wanting to overcome it? The desire or wish to overcome it, is another form of escape from it, but just to look at it. Then we will see because we are no longer escaping and therefore wasting our energy, then we can look. And when we observe totally, the thing is not.

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